
A few weeks ago, some guys were over at our house - I have a book I'm reading called "When Helping Hurts" with a subtitle of "How to alleviate poverty without hurting the poor… or yourself" It's actually an amazing book... feels like someone is voicing our hearts about ministry in this place. Anyway, one guy picks up this book and starts looking through it. I was immediately embarrassed - what is he thinking? I don't want anyone to think that we are only friends with them because we are here to help the poor - and they are "the poor". I have all these things running through my mind. How do I make this okay? Have I totally offended or humiliated him? How do I affirm something to him that I am not even sure I know how to put into words yet? Anyway, so my friend puts down the book and I don’t get brave enough to say anything - and he doesn't say anything and the moment passes but is still there if you know what I mean. Later in the afternoon, he speaks what has been on his mind since thumbing through the pages . He starts out with "I can really understand that book because when I am trying to help the people who live by me......" ----- My friend, who lives in a tiny shack in wolf-side (the really bad side of Zandspruit) - who often has no food the last week of the month - who can't take advantage of an opportunity he's been given to enroll in a sports ministry program at a local university b/c he was forced to drop out of school and sell vegetables when he was Harrison's age - who can't enter a program to get his high school equivalency because the cost is way more than he can think about (about $150 a month for two years). My friend who will walk 8-10 miles in a hot summer Saturday, up a huge mountain hill so he can do garden work at someone's house for the whole day and get paid $8. This friend - he looks at my book on helping the poor - and he identifies himself with the "helper" not the poor.
And I realize right then what I couldn't quite figure out how to verbalize before. We don’t work with poor people - we work with people who belong to a different culture than we do and that culture is one where they have very little- but a great majority of them aren't "the poor" - they are people with value and vision and talents and direction and God's fingerprints knitted right into their very selves. It's not our ministry to help them achieve economically middle class status. That isn't' what helping the poor means - our ministry here is to walk a journey with someone and together identify our value in the kingdom God is creating here in this earth - in this space. There are many different kinds of poverty - and sometimes, the most obvious of them aren't what makes someone a "poor person".